10: The Grown Ups I trust - Level One

Welcome back to six minute sex ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships. My name’s Kim Cavill. I’m a sex education teacher and I’m so glad you’re back. I make this podcast for busy families to listen to together. Listen together, then talk about it! For more info about me and how this podcast works, check out my website //www.teaandintimacy.com/ This episode is Level One, which means it's great for listeners of any age, but particularly good for families with younger listeners. This episode is all about trustworthy grown-ups. We're going to start with a story: This is a story about a kid named Eve, who uses she/her/hers pronouns. Eve is ten and is disappointed because her babysitter left and she has to go to her older cousin’s house after school until her dad is done with work. She likes her cousin, Kia, well enough, but doesn’t know her very well, and her place is pretty boring. Eve watches TV until her dad comes to pick her up, but, lately, Kia has been watching TV with her, letting her watch shows that her dad never lets her watch. Kia tells Eve to keep it a secret, otherwise she won’t let her come over anymore. Kia gives Eve food she’s not allowed to have, too, and tells her to keep that secret. One day, while they’re watching TV, Kia pulls out something that looks like a pen and puffs on it. The smoke smells good, and she offers it to Eve, but tells her she has to keep it a secret, too, otherwise she’ll tell Eve’s dad she’s been watching stuff she isn’t allowed and get in big trouble. Eve wants to call her dad to ask for permission, but Kia says "No." Eve feels uncomfortable with all these secrets and is scared of getting in trouble with her dad. She gets a weird, twisted feeling in her tummy like she’s doing something dangerous. How is Eve feeling in this situation? How do we know if Kia is being trustworthy or tricky? Here's how we know if someone is trustworthy: They tell the truth They respect other people’s bodies. They respect privacy. They don’t ask children to keep their secrets. They ask other grown-ups for help, not children. They give you a safe, warm feeling - not a scary “uh-oh” feeling. They follow your family’s rules They’ll ask you to check with a parent to get permission. If someone doesn't do those things, or does the opposite of those things, they're being tricky and you should ask a trustworthy grown-up for help. Click on this link to download a printable you can use to remember who your trustworthy grown-ups are: //docs.google.com/drawings/d/e/2PACX-1vQOctwvjm0vH2oSo6NFnQHXGhM1FL6r_7pvpP0y_88X3EwDdXSrcs6eAQgMsLR-e1muVGdMqYbEz6MB/pub?w=960&h=720 Grown-ups can do this, too! Click on this link to download a printable you can use to figure out your family's support network: //docs.google.com/drawings/d/e/2PACX-1vRICjYst6fqawG5inGagklvzq7TMtJwvs6QjUfe_Qp0Y-5LlZFscmN3sOMxuv_ML8oOeOqKbQSWG-2W/pub?w=960&h=720 Conversation starters: 1. How do you know if someone's trustworthy? 2. Describe a time in your life that someone was being tricky and you needed to ask someone trustworthy for help. If you like the podcast, share it with a friend, rate/review, and support me on Patreon: //www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent See you next week.